Simple shifts in how we phrase things (yes, even the thoughts we say to ourselves in our heads) can instantly take us from a place of lack and doubt ➔ abundance and confidence. Let's dive in.

Do any of these phrases sound familiar to you?

✓ I HAVE to workout today

✓ I SHOULD really start eating healthier this week

✓ I NEED to chill the F out… why am I so anxious all the time?!

✓ WHY CAN'T I JUST love my body the way it is?

For many of us, these are thoughts we're constantly having throughout our day, and in doing so, without even realizing it, we're actually preventing ourselves even further from taking the action that will help us get to where we want to be. This type of wording automatically shifts us into victim mode. It turns a task/desire into an obligation (aka - the world is happening to us and we have no choice or autonomy in deciding what we do/how and why we do it). When you put yourself in the victim box, your brain starts to go into disaster mode… and all of a sudden you're going down a rabbit hole of doubt, shame, and ughness.

This is where a reframe comes in. To reframe, we rephrase. How do you do this? Check out these examples below.

I HAVE to workout today. → I GET to move my body today & celebrate everything my body does for me.

Ugh, I SHOULD really start eating healthier this week. → I GET to choose foods that lift my vibration, taste good, & give me energy. How cool is that!?

I NEED to chill the F out… why am I so anxious all the time?! → I GET to feel all the feels. My anxiety is a reminder to release what’s no longer serving me & choose a different path to funnel my energy into.

I saved the best for last. The example below is probably my favorite, most impactful reframes of all time. It's what got me through my initial weight release journey 7 years ago - coming from a place of empowerment, excitement, and curiosity instead of lack, disgust, and discipline.

WHY CAN'T I JUST love what I see in the mirror and love my body the way it is?!→ (Tip: This gets to be reframed as a “both” / “and” statement). I GET to be both not absolutely in love with every part of my body right now… and, at the same time, BELIEVE IN MY VALUE & INHERENT WORTHINESS enough to take empowered action to step into my most aligned, authentic self… so that my internal and external feel one… so that I feel whole. I LOVE ME and am EXITED to release everything that’s no longer serving me so I can step into the full essence of who I am and who I get to be - physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally.

At first, shifting the language of our thoughts is a conscious process. And over time, your newfound way or phrasing and thinking will start to come naturally. So how do you do actually start applying this to your life?

Step 1) Practice awareness without judgement - when you catch yourself saying/thinking anything that starts with, I have to… I need too… I should… I must… rather than immediately putting blame or judgement on ourselves for “messing up," choose to congratulate yourself for noticing. Remind yourself that awareness is the first step toward change. Step 2) Rephrase your thought into a motivating, empowering one. Some common shifts you get to make are swapping out have to/need to/should with I get to/I want to/I'm excited to do xyz because…

(Tip: keep note of some of the common thoughts you have throughout the day and choose to actively reframe them. I like to tell my clients to create a note in your phone specifically for reframes to refer back to).

If you're having trouble coming up with a reframe for something, I got you. Reach out to me on IG @emily.golin and I'll help you come up with an empowering mindset shift that you can start implementing asap. Because you're too awesome to wait another day to step into the you that you want to be.

xo, Em

How our language impacts our reality