April was quite the month for me. Some lows, some highs, and everythingggg in-between. The craziest (and most amazing) part of these last four weeks for me has been witnessing the growth that occurred despite all the setbacks.

In the middle of March, I remember saying to my life coach, “I'm so pumped for April, it's going to be my month of fun, luxury, celebration, and relaxation!!" I had a girls trip to Mexico planned with my 4 best friends in the beginning of the month and then shortly after that, I had a spa getaway weekend with my mom and sisters. I mean, if that's not an epic month, I don't know what is.

What actually happened:

I spent the first 2 weeks of April out of commission with Covid (aka bye bye Mexico).
And two days after I finally tested negative for the vid, I slipped and fell in the shower, the right side of my body landed smack on the edge of the tub… and I broke 3 ribs (aka farewell spa weekend bonding).

So overall, not the best month for me.

The coach (and long-time therapy patient) in me wanted so badly to make meaning of all of this. WHY did I fall? Why did I test positive for 14 days when my friend who got it was asymptomatic? Victim mode was hardcore kicking in. WHY ME? There has to be a reason all this happened, a silver lining. The universe always has my back… blah blah blah.

I finally got to a point where I realized not everything has to necessarily happen for a reason, that sometimes shit just gets thrown our way. That the “reason”/lesson/growth part of it isn't a given - it's a choice.

LET'S GET TO THE COACHY PART, SHALL WE?

Growth happens when you least expect it. Sometimes growth stems from low-points in our lives, and sometimes the most incredible growth occurs when we're in our highest vibrations.

That's the thing about growth. It's part situation, part choice.

You choose your vibrations. You choose the energy you exude, and thus create the energy you call in. And when something shitty happens, part of the growth process is allowing yourself to sit in the suckiness of it all, to allow yourself to feel all the anger, frustration, sadness, hurt, so that you can release it and make room for expansion.

The key here is knowing that it's not a one-and-done kind of thing. It's not like you feel these emotions and then all of the sudden enter a state of bliss and never experience them again.

Growth happens when you allow your journey to be a BOTH/AND. You get to both move through the lower vibe emotions and feel joy, grace, compassion, and gratitude…. all at the same time. It's not an either/or thing. And when you remove your resistance toward this black and white mentality, that's when the growth starts flowing in.

As you heal, the low vibes don't completely go away (I mean, we're human after-all) but they start to show up less and less and eventually you get back to feeling like yourself again.

The takeaway here is that even in the midst of chaos, when you are dedicated to your growth, your personal development, your betterment as a human in all areas of your life - physical health, mental health, relationships, spiritual growth - that’s when every single thing around you becomes aligned with your purpose, your desires, your intentions.

And when that happens, your continuous growth becomes inevitable.

Are you committed to your growth? What tools and support do you need to implement into your life that will help you set up the conditions for inevitable growth, even through all the chaos life may bring?

xo, Em

As we heal, we grow